Since the kind of girls I like tend to be fiercely independent, highly ambitious, very driven, arrogant, domineering and of the highest status.
In fantasy, they are often high nobility or royalty. People at the pinnacle of the world in which they live. They are almost always rulers/leaders in some form or another.
They are not the kind of women that would ever orient or define their lives around the goals, ambitions or wishes of another.