I think itβs a general problem
Kindness is a big part of chivalry for example
Itβs seen as a weakness by some people and is not rewarded
People try to use you or try to gain an advantage by playing dirty
People get frustrated after taking countless L's and say: "Now Iβm gonna be an asshole."
Iβve seen and heard it countless times
I always say to them: "Donβt change your kindness, just learn to invest your time/kindness to people who deserve it."