I've established how you are gaslighting. Gaslighting is where you attempt to make your interlocutor to second guess and doubt their perception of their self. In this case, you are attempting to cause me to doubt whether or not I am emotionally-charged by insisting I am and then double downing every time I tell you I'm not. I've asked you not to, and you continue to do so. Gaslighting.
The wording discussion is a separate point altogether. Which you know, because I've split it with quotes every time.