ok now lets look at that from the side of "my people"
- imagine that you wake up in a body opposite to what you are
- you try to get back to what gender you always had, let's give here the trans fem example, you are on medication, try your best to have a good passing (fitting visually and all to the gender you associate with), got even through operations by far and all
- you politely enter the bathroom minding your own business but you get kicked out
- you try again you get kicked
- you try than in shame already humiliated a toilet you never wanted to visit again, the men toilet
- you get kicked out as well
- you can't use any of them
- they tell you to use a bathroom for "others"
- like if you didn't belonged between people
- like if no one really took you as a woman even if you are one
and for trans fem it is even harder to pass for many times due to that it's much harder to take back or at least lower down what testosterone done to your body through those years than for a trans masc to now get testo, get lower voice and have body shape and all changed to more masculine