Have any of you ever permanently ended a relationship with a parent before? What's that like
- Thread starter Monkey D Theories
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I'd advise you to go for professional medic like psychiatrist for this type of problem. That's the best option for you.
Contact other close relatives which knows about you and your mother and try to solve inside the family. If not, then follow first sentence.
Asking for our opinions and experiences is good, but don't take these as a words of gospel and conclude with it.
Contact other close relatives which knows about you and your mother and try to solve inside the family. If not, then follow first sentence.
Asking for our opinions and experiences is good, but don't take these as a words of gospel and conclude with it.
Tbh she hasn’t actually been violent
she just repeatedly comes to my apartment when I tell her she isn’t welcome. Specifically to harass me about quitting my job.
Several times she has even called EMS to my apartment because for whatever reason she believed I needed emergency medical care(despite me explicitly saying I was fine).
She’s also been to my place of employment multiple times and even tried to submit a resignation letter on my behalf.
What I’m concerned about is the fact that my mom’s relationship with me is toxic and abusive and I don’t want to rope in someone else into that relationship.
she just repeatedly comes to my apartment when I tell her she isn’t welcome. Specifically to harass me about quitting my job.
Several times she has even called EMS to my apartment because for whatever reason she believed I needed emergency medical care(despite me explicitly saying I was fine).
She’s also been to my place of employment multiple times and even tried to submit a resignation letter on my behalf.
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What I’m concerned about is the fact that my mom’s relationship with me is toxic and abusive and I don’t want to rope in someone else into that relationship.
Its sad but it’s true
It’s one thing to have schizophrenia. There are many people who are schizophrenic and are able to live functioning lives.
But my mom just refuses to listen to anyone’s advice and help herself.
she legit thinks she’s smarter than everyone
I cannot prevent her from ruining her own life. The best I can do is prevent her from ruining my own.
It’s one thing to have schizophrenia. There are many people who are schizophrenic and are able to live functioning lives.
But my mom just refuses to listen to anyone’s advice and help herself.
she legit thinks she’s smarter than everyone
I cannot prevent her from ruining her own life. The best I can do is prevent her from ruining my own.
@Monkey D Theories
I understand. Your mother's mental illness is holding you back from life. I get it. My father was a Bipolar Narcissist nightmare and held me, and especially my older brother back from living our own lives. The world had to center around him all the time, our opinions, needs, wants and feelings didn't matter to him at all, but he expected us to always cater to his needs. Your mother sounds Narcissist too tbh. They always manipulate to get their way. My father died years ago and that's when we finally could live our lives on our own terms. It's painful, you probably love your mother but you are 100% correct to cut her from your life so that you can finally have a life of your own. Other's may disagree but they haven't been in your shoes. You are NOT your mother's keeper. I would suggest no contact until she gets back on her meds and then very limited contact after that because she WILL try to manipulate you again. Best to put restrictions in your relationship and stand firm. Talk to her Doctor about what you plan to do so he can urge her to take her medicines and he can validate her behavior is driving you away. It's her responsibility, not yours to get the help she needs. Good luck.
I understand. Your mother's mental illness is holding you back from life. I get it. My father was a Bipolar Narcissist nightmare and held me, and especially my older brother back from living our own lives. The world had to center around him all the time, our opinions, needs, wants and feelings didn't matter to him at all, but he expected us to always cater to his needs. Your mother sounds Narcissist too tbh. They always manipulate to get their way. My father died years ago and that's when we finally could live our lives on our own terms. It's painful, you probably love your mother but you are 100% correct to cut her from your life so that you can finally have a life of your own. Other's may disagree but they haven't been in your shoes. You are NOT your mother's keeper. I would suggest no contact until she gets back on her meds and then very limited contact after that because she WILL try to manipulate you again. Best to put restrictions in your relationship and stand firm. Talk to her Doctor about what you plan to do so he can urge her to take her medicines and he can validate her behavior is driving you away. It's her responsibility, not yours to get the help she needs. Good luck.
Well
I had to go to a court and have her involuntarily confined for two weeks because she drove to my city(3 hrs away from her home), stalked me for an entire week, and refused to go home.
The more I think about it, the more I feel like it’s time to end my relationship with her.
talking to her is never pleasant. It’s emotionally exhausting. She would legitimately be happier if she just forgot I existed.
I had to go to a court and have her involuntarily confined for two weeks because she drove to my city(3 hrs away from her home), stalked me for an entire week, and refused to go home.
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The more I think about it, the more I feel like it’s time to end my relationship with her.
talking to her is never pleasant. It’s emotionally exhausting. She would legitimately be happier if she just forgot I existed.
it was either that or press criminal charges. Getting her confined was harder and I had to take time out of work just to do it. But it was probably better than the other option.
The issue is, you can’t actually treat schizophrenia effectively in 2 weeks. The actual duration that the therapy is supposed to last is 6 weeks and if you’re not better then, you’re supposed to cycle through therapies until you find a drug that works.
but if you let people go after only 2 weeks, then they are going to quit treatment before you can even test if it’s effective.
The issue is, you can’t actually treat schizophrenia effectively in 2 weeks. The actual duration that the therapy is supposed to last is 6 weeks and if you’re not better then, you’re supposed to cycle through therapies until you find a drug that works.
but if you let people go after only 2 weeks, then they are going to quit treatment before you can even test if it’s effective.
