Marriage is a pact of love and union, it doesn't mean you take advantage of the other person nor do you have the freedoms to do whatever you want with them. Wtf dude
you're talking to a person who is, evidently, incapable of distinguishing between sex and rape.
but yes, it should be a very simple thing to grasp:
stealing is bad -> stealing from your spouse is bad
lying is bad -> lying to your spouse is bad
rape is bad -> raping your spouse is bad
it's like some people think that if they take a bad thing and transport it 'into' a marriage situation then it suddenly becomes a 'good' thing. or at least acceptable.
with a spouse like that, who needs enemies?