There is no such thing as bogeyman, but there are scientific researches. But you can of course choose to refuse science like most conservatist.
Also, you are living in a society just like any of us, its impossible for you not to work with collective thoughts.
You won't find that in leftism either..
Not even the most radical woke women (and I actually follow a few one that would say worst things than "men are trash") would say that men are responsible when they are the victims.
I don't know were you got that impression, but that's not with reasonnable people.