Controversial Is dating really as hard as some people say it is?

Eh it’s definitely not easy but I honestly don’t consider it THAT hard.

For reference I would say other broad scale life goals (such as working out/getting healthy or pursuing a high paying career or degree), take considerably more time and effort than finding a relationship.

I think the thing that throws people is that the difficulty can vary wildly depending on a variety of factors outside of someone’s control, but that’s not contained to dating, that’s literally just life.
 
So, I've been talking to this girl for quite some time and today I found the courage to ask her out. I started by asking "hey, you got any plans next weekend", her reply was "I don't even know what I'll do tomorrow let alone in 1 week." My dumbass response was "Well, I was thinking about grabbing a coffee together... (insert plans for Saturday)." and her reply was "Well, I don't know". This conversation literally made me lose years of my lifespan due to the stress.
She's a pretty straightforward girl by the way, someone who'd definetly tell you "no" to the face if she doesn't want something. Luckily, I'm also talking to one of her friends, who is helping me out. And she, indeed confirmed that she's straightforward and the fact that I didn't get a straight "no" is a good sign and that she only said "I don't know" to the 'got any plans next weekend?' question.
 
She's a pretty straightforward girl by the way, someone who'd definetly tell you "no" to the face if she doesn't want something. Luckily, I'm also talking to one of her friends, who is helping me out. And she, indeed confirmed that she's straightforward and the fact that I didn't get a straight "no" is a good sign and that she only said "I don't know" to the 'got any plans next weekend?' question.
Bro she is not straightforward 💀. "Idk" is not straightforward. Is she playing harder to get or something?
 

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So, I've been talking to this girl for quite some time and today I found the courage to ask her out. I started by asking "hey, you got any plans next weekend", her reply was "I don't even know what I'll do tomorrow let alone in 1 week." My dumbass response was "Well, I was thinking about grabbing a coffee together... (insert plans for Saturday)." and her reply was "Well, I don't know". This conversation literally made me lose years of my lifespan due to the stress.
She's a pretty straightforward girl by the way, someone who'd definetly tell you "no" to the face if she doesn't want something. Luckily, I'm also talking to one of her friends, who is helping me out. And she, indeed confirmed that she's straightforward and the fact that I didn't get a straight "no" is a good sign and that she only said "I don't know" to the 'got any plans next weekend?' question.
Idk means she's using you.

If she was truly attracted she would have said yes
 
Bro she is not straightforward 💀. "Idk" is not straightforward. Is she playing harder to get or something?
She's straightforward at saying "no" it seems. So like, if she didn't want to go she would've said no from the beginning. Still, I don't know what the fuck is happening lol.
Idk means she's using you.

If she was truly attracted she would have said yes
That's honestly the most suspicious part for me. It's like "damn".
 
She's straightforward at saying "no" it seems. So like, if she didn't want to go she would've said no from the beginning. Still, I don't know what the fuck is happening lol.
It seems she is not interested and trust ne a simple no will just remove attention from her , which no girl says no to.
If she is playing hard to get , leave her , her loss.
If you want to still give it a go , ask her one more time looking at the occasion. And if she says no or idk , leave , if yes , then it's in your favour.
 
It seems she is not interested and trust ne a simple no will just remove attention from her , which no girl says no to.
If she is playing hard to get , leave her , her loss.
If you want to still give it a go , ask her one more time looking at the occasion. And if she says no or idk , leave , if yes , then it's in your favour.
Yeah I can see where you are coming from. It's hella weird since she was the first one to send me a message and not the other way around. And she usually tries to continue conversations too (like, my last message was literally only "😂" and she started talking about something else)
 
Yeah I can see where you are coming from. It's hella weird since she was the first one to send me a message and not the other way around. And she usually tries to continue conversations too (like, my last message was literally only "😂" and she started talking about something else)
Ask her once more and if says no, let it go. If she's interested, she can chase you back after that. The reason is you're giving her too much power, a little date isn't worth a hit on your self respect.

I personally wouldn't be asking twice, but I get the feeling you wouldn't be content if you just stopped there.
 
Yeah I can see where you are coming from. It's hella weird since she was the first one to send me a message and not the other way around. And she usually tries to continue conversations too (like, my last message was literally only "😂" and she started talking about something else)
Woman crave attention , (No offense to any woman here).
But with " 😂 " you probably triggered her insecurities lol.
:holdw:
 
Ask her once more and if says no, let it go. If she's interested, she can chase you back after that. The reason is you're giving her too much power, a little date isn't worth a hit on your self respect.

I personally wouldn't be asking twice, but I get the feeling you wouldn't be content if you just stopped there.
I got advised (by one of her best friends and some more folks, the situation is hella complicated lmao) to ask her about today's date, if we are going out or not basically. If she says yes, that's a W, if she says no or if she brings up any excuses I won't be asking twice myself that's for sure. Guess we'll see what happens when she wakes up.

Woman crave attention , (No offense to any woman here).
But with " 😂 " you probably triggered her insecurities lol.
:holdw:
I mean, if I don't have anything to say I won't force a conversation just to talk with her. That's a rule that I'm definetly not breaking. No offense to any woman in here but god are they fucking complicated
 
or they'll only date fucking tony stark
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