Well, you can

my dad used to be a light version of his dad. Good that he changed over the years. I can now have normal conversations with my dad from time to time, ~ 10 years ago this was not possible.
One has to show their parents that one is NOT ok with their demanding, elitist behavior. Maybe they are not fully aware how they are ruining their relationship with you, maybe they were raised like this and don't know how to do better.
Some parents can actually improve over the years when they understand that they were wrong in showing this kind of behavior towards their children.
But those who don't, just fuck them.