Dealing With Depression
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phew. heavy stuff.
there is no real advice I can give to deal with depression as its different for everyone. for some its utterly crippling for others its a shadow hiding behind every cornern.
your thoughts about a potentially deadly virus sound like anxiety issue more than depression. not sure how much comfort this is, but you apparently seem to care about your life and that of your loved ones. thats a good sign in my book.
I think most do. its more a matter of how much they affect you.
these thoughts never went away for me. the difference is that they do not get me down anymore. they come in, show their ugly face and I let them move on.
it sounds simple, and it really is, now. and you will deal with them just as easy, in time.
ah, sweet summer child. mental strength has nothing to do with this.
I can only hope that you never have to deal with it. I truely do. no person deserves to suffer from it. now this will sound very patronizing so bare with me.
you can not imagine how depression feels unless you went through it. whats worse, you have absolutely no control over wether you ever get it or not.
happy thoughts are not able to keep it at bay. its a medical condition. neurotransmitters in your head go out of whack and bye bye sanity.
no amount of rational thought or your perceived control over your feelings will change that.
that is the most scary part about it. it can hit people that are very well off. happy people. anyone. at any time.
you are not save from this even if you think you are. once, I thought the same way you do, but trust me, I have been thoroughly humbled.
do not take this as an insult. its only meant as a reminder that sometimes its best to keep your opinion to yourself. cause...
you have no clue what you are talking about.
phew. heavy stuff.
there is no real advice I can give to deal with depression as its different for everyone. for some its utterly crippling for others its a shadow hiding behind every cornern.
your thoughts about a potentially deadly virus sound like anxiety issue more than depression. not sure how much comfort this is, but you apparently seem to care about your life and that of your loved ones. thats a good sign in my book.
I think most do. its more a matter of how much they affect you.
these thoughts never went away for me. the difference is that they do not get me down anymore. they come in, show their ugly face and I let them move on.
it sounds simple, and it really is, now. and you will deal with them just as easy, in time.
ah, sweet summer child. mental strength has nothing to do with this.
I can only hope that you never have to deal with it. I truely do. no person deserves to suffer from it. now this will sound very patronizing so bare with me.
you can not imagine how depression feels unless you went through it. whats worse, you have absolutely no control over wether you ever get it or not.
happy thoughts are not able to keep it at bay. its a medical condition. neurotransmitters in your head go out of whack and bye bye sanity.
no amount of rational thought or your perceived control over your feelings will change that.
that is the most scary part about it. it can hit people that are very well off. happy people. anyone. at any time.
you are not save from this even if you think you are. once, I thought the same way you do, but trust me, I have been thoroughly humbled.
do not take this as an insult. its only meant as a reminder that sometimes its best to keep your opinion to yourself. cause...
you have no clue what you are talking about.
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I’m POSITIVE that anxiety plays a role here...my girlfriend deals with that one on a regular basis (I know; me with depression and her with anxiety makes our apartment a blast zone every once in a while) and it’s just been off the charts since the pandemic began. I like that you acknowledge the darkness and let it roll past without affecting you...I’m slowly learning how to do the same.
I am as positive as I have ever been now. maybe even more so.
its the one thing that psychotherapists tell you everytime. it will get better and you will get through it.
as much as I could not feel the truth behind those words at the time it turned out they were infact true after all.
it will pass and you will come out stronger than before. :cheers:
its the one thing that psychotherapists tell you everytime. it will get better and you will get through it.
as much as I could not feel the truth behind those words at the time it turned out they were infact true after all.
it will pass and you will come out stronger than before. :cheers:
I have no depression, and I think nearly all depression can be treated with something to read, to do, or to change (maybe with assistance sometimes), or someone to meet, but I am forced to still/again live at home with my parents and my older brother is there too, and he is an absolute psychopath, every couple of months screaming insane selfish, delusional, hateful and manipulative bullshit with an ugly, loud voice, slamming doors with absolute violence, and sometimes coming after me, either to push close to my face and say something like he will murder me, or to beat at me, although so far in a cramp-like idiotic manner (still insane).
He even has a confirmed condition of obsessive compulsive or some sort of control disorder (don't know what exactly or the best translation), but on top of it, he is just a narcissistic, egomanical, and probably sociopathic a--hole. Imagine a typical 12 year old a--hole. He is that, only if it became ever more extreme over the years and more narcissistically delusional and self-important.
My parents - or at least my mother, because my father has become very passive - have seen, heard all of it, but my mother doesn't really give a sh--. She calls it "neutral" if it happens to me. But what's more, he has long took up the habit to go completely nuts exactly then when he's heard or suspects that I've told something my mother. I on the other hand want a third party and don't cherish that bullshit which he is obsessed about for its own sake and that will never end, except by moving out, which I can't do.
Normally I find it too stupid and disgusting to think or talk about, but this happened once more.
You know...
He even has a confirmed condition of obsessive compulsive or some sort of control disorder (don't know what exactly or the best translation), but on top of it, he is just a narcissistic, egomanical, and probably sociopathic a--hole. Imagine a typical 12 year old a--hole. He is that, only if it became ever more extreme over the years and more narcissistically delusional and self-important.
My parents - or at least my mother, because my father has become very passive - have seen, heard all of it, but my mother doesn't really give a sh--. She calls it "neutral" if it happens to me. But what's more, he has long took up the habit to go completely nuts exactly then when he's heard or suspects that I've told something my mother. I on the other hand want a third party and don't cherish that bullshit which he is obsessed about for its own sake and that will never end, except by moving out, which I can't do.
Normally I find it too stupid and disgusting to think or talk about, but this happened once more.
You know...
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I'm dealing with the depression because of few things mostly not believing in myself and not valuing my life ( I can casually say to my family that I don't want to live and I'm hoping for a quick death if it happens ) and few things that marked my mental health in the past ( No I wasn't raped or some dark sh*t like this but you better believe me not every harm needs to be physical to destroy someone). But on the other hand, I try to push myself to go further cause yet I had few problems that I'm dealing till this day and I'm not believing in myself I still push forward because I have few people who would cry after me and I think I have to live for them ( that's how you say this I guess). Sometime year ago I even developed a wish to become accomplished in life and I'm trying to move into that direction. Depression is a massive problem but I don't think people should react negatively if someone doesn't give an f about your depression because on the other hand everyone has his own life to deal with. I have a few close friends who laugh about depression with me and then we come back to our houses and fight our own demons. ( They have depression too ). I know it will sound like some coach sh*t but there is always this one person that believes in you and if you don't have even your family's help maybe you are set to met someone in the future. My advice for people with depression would be to believe in yourself and push forward yet I know this is not the case sometimes even I had the moments where I wanted to enter my room and never leave it because of something/someone. Sometimes one bad word from a random person can twist your happiness into sadness in seconds. Stay safe guys! and believe in yourself even if no one else does there is always this one day in life when you will think "I'm happy to be alive or I'm happy to made it here"
ps. When it comes to doctors/specialists I don't believe in that sh*t yet I know there are cases when people got massive help from them. It all depends on people I guess.
ps. When it comes to doctors/specialists I don't believe in that sh*t yet I know there are cases when people got massive help from them. It all depends on people I guess.
Solid advice from someone who’s clearly been through Hell and back...the people around us can be and often are a source of great strength, just knowing you have that kind of support can often propel you out of a dark spell. It’s also encouraging to hear you’ve got a clear direction you wanna head in, keeping sight of that goal can also keep the demons at bay! Thanks for sharing, man 
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This thread is important in this pandemic .
Well i am from Girona , unemployment among youth is high right now because of bad government policies. Depression has been new norm because the big bucks are earned in programming , banking.
I was a pro swimmer and even participated olympic trial for spanish team . There is a thing in spain you are legend if you win everything, if you lose you are nobody.
Its very apt for sportsperson who want to achieve great thing. I was always depressed when i failed for national tryouts forget about olympics. As a sportsperson you are totally on your parents saving untill you achieve decent recognition.
There was a point i realised i need to move on from swimming i had to face depression i never achieved my dream to fullfill to be in olympics it took me months to accept i need second life.
I current work as a operational manager in a construction company and look after family vineyard.
Am i happy ? I do feel less full filled the thing really is we need to move on with life.
I would say just because you are not good at something you dreamt to be the road doesnt end. There is so much in life maybe take part in chilly contest in rotterdam .
I really do think as a sportsperson i always feared failure. I ffeel sports teach good lesson that measure peoples capability.
Well i am from Girona , unemployment among youth is high right now because of bad government policies. Depression has been new norm because the big bucks are earned in programming , banking.
I was a pro swimmer and even participated olympic trial for spanish team . There is a thing in spain you are legend if you win everything, if you lose you are nobody.
Its very apt for sportsperson who want to achieve great thing. I was always depressed when i failed for national tryouts forget about olympics. As a sportsperson you are totally on your parents saving untill you achieve decent recognition.
There was a point i realised i need to move on from swimming i had to face depression i never achieved my dream to fullfill to be in olympics it took me months to accept i need second life.
I current work as a operational manager in a construction company and look after family vineyard.
Am i happy ? I do feel less full filled the thing really is we need to move on with life.
I would say just because you are not good at something you dreamt to be the road doesnt end. There is so much in life maybe take part in chilly contest in rotterdam .
I really do think as a sportsperson i always feared failure. I ffeel sports teach good lesson that measure peoples capability.
Holy shit, you tried out for the Olympics?? That’s still a tremendous accomplishment, I don’t think anyone else here could say they’ve done something like that!!
You’re right, though, learning your own limitations in the thing you love the most can be really disheartening...but at least you’ve realized that you can still be proficient in other things, and you’re doing your best in those fields, that’s about as much as anyone could hope to do. Thanks for sharing! :cheers:
You’re right, though, learning your own limitations in the thing you love the most can be really disheartening...but at least you’ve realized that you can still be proficient in other things, and you’re doing your best in those fields, that’s about as much as anyone could hope to do. Thanks for sharing! :cheers: