How do you deal with an alcoholic father that is destroying your family

[Jesse Pinkman]

I totally agree with @van it’s best you take timeout away from him . Temporary timeout for you and your mother . If you have family maybe try talking through them . It’s sensitive issue and it seems you love your dad it’s heartbreaking situation .

Talk it through family counselling and ask him to enter rehab for best of the family . If you think he is not lost cause then there is hope for him and your family .

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kill him before he kills you

One of the worst advice on internet , da hell is wrong with you

 

[Ultra]

Yo Fuji, you gotta just go. For your own sake but also you ain't gonna get someone to change without facing the consequences of their actions. Even if he's a good person or whatever, he's obviously gotta lose something to get his shit together, and losing your family is a wake up call. Nothing short of that will do shit. And if he's not up to the task it's still the answer

 

[Yoho]

3 is the hardest to do because I dont want to abandon him.

Don't think of it has abandoning him think of it has bettering yourself, your life, your safety, you and your family should be able to feel safe if losing what he has is what it takes for him to wake up and realize he should change not just for all of you but for himself, it just what needs to happen

 

[trav]

kill him before he kills you

Sound advice right there.
You life seems like the beginning of a popular manga story. Ride the kali yuga.

wtf are you thinking asking this stuff on a manga forum. Seek help elsewhere.

 

[Adam 🍎]

There is smth you could do

Just one night out of blue start drinking heavily next to him, show him how you see him.

If he doesn't feel bad about it and change his ways move out, you shouldn't put your life that is just starting before his which he obv willingly doesn't take seriously. Family is important yes, but there is no family on the bottom of the bottle.

 

[Toby D. Dog]

Ig if domestic violence is something you guys are experiencing on a weekly basis, you should probably get the authorities involved.

 

[R A I T E I I I]

Pack your things and help from distance. Protect yourself otherwise you're not lucid enough to folllow through best actions.

 

[Fujishiro]

@Lee Ba Shou Id love your input here please.

 

[Elder Lee Hung]

@Lee Ba Shou Id love your input here please.

Damn bro. I’m so sorry to hear this. It wouldn’t be responsible for me to give advice because I’ve never been in this situation.

There has to be some kind of resource for you no? Like a hotline you can call or school resources you can report to or something like that? I guess it depends what country you live in but most countries probably have some kind of school/government counseling/intervention programs for victims of abuse.

Idk man. I can’t tell you what to do but if it were me I’d seek out a school counselor or some kind of resource like that.

 

[Oliver]

Gather evidence - photos of marks/bruises/lacerations, videos of his behaviour, talk with your family about gathering testimonies together. If the abuse is bad enough he can be sectioned with mandatory rehab programs, or receive a restraining order for physical/mental abuse.

 

[Necrohol]

I tried to go to a psychiatrist once but it didnt pan out, they told me that we should all leave and leave him alone.

Talking does nothing, hes too stubborn. He sometimes recognizes he has a problem but then its right back down to it. He spent the last month or so not drinking for example and now hes back to it again.

Everyone tried to talk to him but he doesnt care, its killing me to see him destroy his body and our lives like this.

3 is the hardest to do because I dont want to abandon him.

Yeah I know its the best option but its hard to do because Im afraid of what might happen to him if hes left alone.

Its mostly mental, he causes huge scenes at home with my mom and sis and just made the environement here a living hell.

And no hes hasnt done anything bad, hes a gentle soul but he becomes someone else when he's drunk and its killing me slowly to see him like this.

I have lost the taste for living because of this stuff.

I grew up in a similar, but maybe worse situation. My father was also physically and emotionally abusive and almost killed me/my brothers/my mother a few times. I cut contact after a huge fight when I was in college. My mother did, too. That was the best decision I ever made. He kept making my brothers' lives hell until my older brother also cut contact. He died a few months after that. When he died, he only had contact with 2 out of his 4 kids, my mother had divorced him and he was desperate to reconcile. I did feel bad when he died, it's unavoidable. But now I can see that I made the right choice. My life improved a billion % when he no longer was in it.

 

[NAMELESS]

What the title says, Id appreciate some advice. I am at my limit mentally and physically. Not sure I can take much more of the abuse anymore.

I spend my days worried about my dad and my family and how things will go after he comes home 24/7.

His addiction is not your problem. If you want to help him,first you need to take care of yourself and have a stable mind. Try to live by yourself first. As other have suggested,seek professional help too.

 

[Killerj]

What is he complaining about when he gets dr7nk?

 

[sanjikun]

Nothing you can do but leave.

 

[JoNdule]

I hope you find peace and move away in order to protect your peace

Maybe your dad will come to his senses a lil bit if he realises that you moved out because of his addiction