Controversial Is dating really as hard as some people say it is?

Honest to god most of the women in friends with are people who “friendzoned” me.

It’s not really a bad thing. At least people like you enough to be your friend.

Plus having female friends can be useful. You could in theory network with them to meet more single women.
If you can't succeed with women there's always an equal amount of men to try your luck with.
 
Well, I’m 14 and it’s hard for me. I’m not scared of the girls I’m scared of the relationship. I also don’t have a lot of girl friends and the ones I have are older. One of my friends though he has a girlfriend all the time and he’s on this ai chat site an NSFW one plus he’s a porn artist and animator. And he’s also ugly with unclean hair and stuff but somehow he’s dating this one hot girl. For me I think it relies on personality, since me and this friend are both ugly but he’s loud and extroverted, he even screamed then N word in his neighborhood while on a discord call and does not hesitate to say a thing. Meanwhile me I’m more quiet and introverted and can’t even get to the talking stage, I’d never do the shir he does. He even got called down to the office for making his profile picture a picture of his friend in front of a trans flag. So I think it really relies on personality with girls your league but girls out of your league it’s personality, looks, popularity, whatever (keep in mind I’m 14 and a freshman in high school)
 
Well, I’m 14 and it’s hard for me. I’m not scared of the girls I’m scared of the relationship. I also don’t have a lot of girl friends and the ones I have are older. One of my friends though he has a girlfriend all the time and he’s on this ai chat site an NSFW one plus he’s a porn artist and animator. And he’s also ugly with unclean hair and stuff but somehow he’s dating this one hot girl. For me I think it relies on personality, since me and this friend are both ugly but he’s loud and extroverted, he even screamed then N word in his neighborhood while on a discord call and does not hesitate to say a thing. Meanwhile me I’m more quiet and introverted and can’t even get to the talking stage, I’d never do the shir he does. He even got called down to the office for making his profile picture a picture of his friend in front of a trans flag. So I think it really relies on personality with girls your league but girls out of your league it’s personality, looks, popularity, whatever (keep in mind I’m 14 and a freshman in high school)
You are too young to be worried about this stuff, just have fun out there and don't give into fear. Fear stops life.
 
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If you have patience enough to work your day through all your exhaustion and get asked "would you have loved me if I was a Worm"
And you have this reaction.

Then yea it's going to be hard for you.
And I assure you this question would be asked 1000s of time.
Second they ask you about your past to get angry with you , and finds a reason to stay angry.
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I thought I mastered Women's. But I give up.
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Well, I’m 14 and it’s hard for me
😭😭😭😭
Bro I was watching South park when i was 14.

Is it really true kids hitting their puberty early nowadays?
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Dating/relationship/marriage is just best friends having intimate relationship.


If you can understand this then it will work out for you.
Not really,man. Some people have great friendships and yet can't have sex with each other. On the other hand,some people have very passionate sex and yet they have a pretty fucked up relationship. Its not that simple.
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We aren't in Medieval times anymore where we need to treat women as nothing more than cattle for political points. Asia should maybe take a step forward to get rid of that mindset
Bro has a point. If you marry someone,you will have to deal with their family too. Depending on how you get treated by them and how your partner values their family, it might not work out.
 
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For me it's hard to tell if dating is hard or not because I never really showed much interest. I noticed most of you in this thread are males and I'm a female so this will be from a female's point of view.

I've only been on 3 dates and what all of my dates had in common is they were all guys I knew from school. I finished school a long time ago and I've never been on a date with someone from outside of school since I don't really go out much to meet new people.

There is online dating and I've never tried that. My sister had tried online dating and she had a bad experience with one of her date she met from an online dating site and it's a long story.
 
Not really,man. Some people have great friendships and yet can't have sex with each other. On the other hand,some people have very passionate sex and yet they have a pretty fucked up relationship. Its not that simple.
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Bro has a point. If you marriage someone,you will have to deal with their family too. Depending on how you get treated by them and how your partner values their family, it might not work out.
If you marriage someone :risitavirus:
 

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For me it's hard to tell if dating is hard or not because I never really showed much interest. I noticed most of you in this thread are males and I'm a female so this will be from a female's point of view.

I've only been on 3 dates and what all of my dates had in common is they were all guys I knew from school. I finished school a long time ago and I've never been on a date with someone from outside of school since I don't really go out much to meet new people.

There is online dating and I've never tried that. My sister had tried online dating and she had a bad experience with one of her date she met from an online dating site and it's a long story.
Then It's not really hard for you tbh because it's completely voluntary in your side and have no interest

You could easily pull anyone you like if you show interest unlike some guys
 
For me it's hard to tell if dating is hard or not because I never really showed much interest. I noticed most of you in this thread are males and I'm a female so this will be from a female's point of view.

I've only been on 3 dates and what all of my dates had in common is they were all guys I knew from school. I finished school a long time ago and I've never been on a date with someone from outside of school since I don't really go out much to meet new people.

There is online dating and I've never tried that. My sister had tried online dating and she had a bad experience with one of her date she met from an online dating site and it's a long story.
Your input is very much needed so thanks

Yeah I have no luck even in person. Everyone and their moms apparently has a boyfriend/married when they see me
 
Well, I’m 14 and it’s hard for me. I’m not scared of the girls I’m scared of the relationship. I also don’t have a lot of girl friends and the ones I have are older. One of my friends though he has a girlfriend all the time and he’s on this ai chat site an NSFW one plus he’s a porn artist and animator. And he’s also ugly with unclean hair and stuff but somehow he’s dating this one hot girl. For me I think it relies on personality, since me and this friend are both ugly but he’s loud and extroverted, he even screamed then N word in his neighborhood while on a discord call and does not hesitate to say a thing. Meanwhile me I’m more quiet and introverted and can’t even get to the talking stage, I’d never do the shir he does. He even got called down to the office for making his profile picture a picture of his friend in front of a trans flag. So I think it really relies on personality with girls your league but girls out of your league it’s personality, looks, popularity, whatever (keep in mind I’m 14 and a freshman in high school)
 
Dating is like job hunting. When you are already in a relationship/job opportunities open up much easier than when you are single or jobless. Just work on landing that one relationship even if they don't tick most of the boxes. It'll give you confidence and when an opportunity comes up to upgrade to a better person grab it with both hands.
 
Well, I’m 14 and it’s hard for me. I’m not scared of the girls I’m scared of the relationship. I also don’t have a lot of girl friends and the ones I have are older. One of my friends though he has a girlfriend all the time and he’s on this ai chat site an NSFW one plus he’s a porn artist and animator. And he’s also ugly with unclean hair and stuff but somehow he’s dating this one hot girl. For me I think it relies on personality, since me and this friend are both ugly but he’s loud and extroverted, he even screamed then N word in his neighborhood while on a discord call and does not hesitate to say a thing. Meanwhile me I’m more quiet and introverted and can’t even get to the talking stage, I’d never do the shir he does. He even got called down to the office for making his profile picture a picture of his friend in front of a trans flag. So I think it really relies on personality with girls your league but girls out of your league it’s personality, looks, popularity, whatever (keep in mind I’m 14 and a freshman in high school)
"One of my friends though he has a girlfriend all the time and he’s on this ai chat site an NSFW one plus he’s a porn artist and animator. And he’s also ugly with unclean hair and stuff but somehow he’s dating this one hot girl"

Lucky bastard
I do all that and am 25 yr old v-card guy
I wouldn't worry so much about "losing your V-card". The day will come when you finally do it and it will be great, but you also feel like you should have saved it for that special person. Best advice I can give is to not to view others enviously or believe that the world is so small that this one girl/guy you can't talk to is important. There will be more. You gotta let that shit go sometimes. Its what everyone says, but focusing on yourself is the most important thing. I have a gf of 2 years and Ive been way happier. At the same time though life is progressing in a way that the happiness she gives me just does not solve my actual real world problems.
2nd best advice I can give is try to control your hormones. There'll come a time when you need to grow up and throw that shit away. Don't make it harder for yourself and grow attached to some unsavory habits.
 
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