Controversial Is dating really as hard as some people say it is?

You do understand that my celibat is a choice, right ?

Even locked in a room, this is not something impossible. Try less objectifying more empathizing.
At an age where people are thinking about having children. Don’t you think that this would be very hard for you though ?

Unless you go for the younger ones :pepebusi:

(No minors lol)
 

MangoSenpai

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You do understand that my celibat is a choice, right ?

Even locked in a room, this is not something impossible. Try less objectifying more empathizing.
Be that as it may, don't you think it's a bit hypocritical to be giving advice for something you're not in?

Not to say anything about your choices, more power to you if you are practicing cellibacy.
 
Don’t you think that this would be very hard for you though ?
I don't think so.

It depends on the social circles I will frequent. In leftist circle, a lot of people prefer to wait. Finding will be the hardest job but after that, I don't really see dating as a problem as long as I'm cool with my situation. Which is not something that will happen soon.


Be that as it may, don't you think it's a bit hypocritical to be giving advice for something you're not in?
It's not because I'm single now that I have always been single. I actually had good love stories that ended with respect on both sides. Respecting women shouldn't start when you start to search for love.

I want to add that under patriarchy, it's not a given but it's a duty. We are raised - even with love - in a way that disregards women's experiences and feeling. Me first. I was like some of you before, objectifying and rating women.. but that's something we must go beyond.

Respect women and you will be respected in return.
 
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I’ve seen a lot of people talk about how dating is so hard nowadays, but idk. I can’t help but wonder if that’s more to do with the person than society as a whole.

I think if you want to get married, that can’t be that difficult. You just find someone who is good enough and you make it work. My family is from india and most of these people had arranged marriages. That’s how I presume their relationships went down.

I think people who are struggling with dating probably aren’t thinking about it in these terms. I think a lot of people, myself included, have gotten too caught up in thinking of relationships as more than what they are: a means to an end.

I want to start a family with someone to carry on my ancestors’ genetic line. I only have so much time to do it(even as a man). Hence you can only kick the bucket down the road for so long, and eventually you just need to buckle down and make something work to accomplish your goals. Even if the person you choose doesn’t match all your fantasies, or isn’t everything you wanted in a partner.
 

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Well to be in a relationship that aggregates positive outcomes, emotional maturity is a must. Which is lacking I think generally speaking. So people prefer to do their own thing than to deal with the negatives of a relationship.

Heki heki though. Relationships are a bonus/extra, not a basic necessity imo.
 

K!NG HARA$H!MA

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Relationships are a bonus/extra, not a basic necessity imo.
It's a basic necessity actually.

You need a motivation to keep going.

And that motivation is often relationships.

Ask any low wage or any workers really what is their motivation and they often say wife, kids, Parents etc


A lonely man have no incentive to keep going.

Hence the high suicide rates among lonely men
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Brutal.

Desis dominate the most decreased attraction in both categories


It's over for CurryCels
 
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It's a basic necessity actually.

You need a motivation to keep going.

And that motivation is often relationships.

Ask any low wage or any workers really what is their motivation and they often say wife, kids, Parents etc


A lonely man have no incentive to keep going.

Hence the high suicide rates among lonely men
Yeah sure. It can be an emotional necessity. I was more talking on the lines of physical ones where if you don't fullfil them, your body ceases to function. That's what I would call a basic necessity I think.

To be more correct it's a conditional emotional necessity. Romantic ones at least. Socializing is very important after all.

If someone values romantic relationships, then it can be a necessity for them, but by no means it's an universally basic necessity. I would attribute that more to interactions instead.

You can be motivated by other things aside from romantic relationships, like traveling,, some kind of hobby etc etc
 

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was more talking on the lines of physical ones where if you don't fullfil them, your body ceases to function. That's what I would call a basic necessity I think.
It literally does though.

Being lonely=>Being Depressed=>health problems

If someone values romantic relationships, then it can be a necessity for them, but by no means it's an universally basic necessity. I would attribute that more to interactions instead.
If it's not necessity then why 99.9% of humans have relationships and others who don't desperately crave it?


You can be motivated by other things aside from romantic relationships, like traveling,, some kind of hobby etc etc
Romantic relationship fullfil a different void inside you from those things though

That is the human desire to feel special/unique and valued


Those hobbies are just time passing
 

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If it's not necessity then why 99.9% of humans have relationships and others who don't desperately crave it?
This doesn't really oppose what I said about interactions/socializing above.


Romantic relationship fullfil a different void inside you from those things though

That is the human desire to feel special/unique and valued


Those hobbies are just time passing
It's a motivation though that I gave in response to your motivation point.
 
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