I actually disagree that “confidence” matters as an attitude or trait, I think confidence more so matters as just putting yourself out there in the first place.
Just reflecting on my own experience. I think people think “confidence” means acting a certain way when it really just means having initiative and putting yourself out there.
Agreed confidence is relative term . To be fair it at least puts you in first step in dating world .
Rejection is secondary matter to be fair if you don’t put yourself out there it’s tough . People wants it to be easy . You can be lucky if you are naturally good looker but if you lack in it you need to make lot of effort .
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I was also voluntarily celibate until I found the girl I truly love. Best decision ever. I had a friend that was a few years older than me when I was in my teens and she told me that it's really important to save yourself for the right person and she regretted losing it to a toxic ex and I took that to heart. I do think more young people would be doing better if they treated sex as something sacred. But I don't want to push my more "traditional" values on everyone. Some people think casual sex is fun and that's great for them.
I wish more men are like you but everyone wants to get laid it’s crazy . I am surprised some brag they did before college it’s like they won a noble prize or something .
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Dating can be hard. I had two dates last week. I pushed them away. Like wtf was that. I don't deserve to lose my time like this. I'm a busy man.
To be fair it’s upto you lol , but if I would suggest you should go for it . Treat it like fun and enjoy rejection is the last thing you should think off .
Busy is relative term you will definitely feel the need for companion when you are mentally down . Parents cannot be their for kids sometimes you need a partner you can share emotionally . It’s tough world .