What does all this have anything to do with Sanji never once commanding anyone to attack a woman in history of One Piece? It's fundamental to him. Sanji has never, and will never directly command anyone to attack a woman, much less a beautiful one. That's just not his character.
This never even happened in Manga. Sanji never said anything to Zoro about Tashigi regarding before Monet fight. Zoro and Tashigi started tagging and Sanji silently went off alongside rest of G5.
But man, it's kinda desperate to try and pretend random shittalks regarding women are commands when Sanji does that to everyone, including Luffy lol. That's just Sanji being Sanji and insulting people and demanding they don't hurt women or keep them safe. He'd do that to one he would consider his leader, and to even downright strangers.
- After Luffy went to fight Crocodile. He was the one who took charge and decided their next course of action immediately
- During Thriller Bark vs Oars, he led literally every single one into a combined assault
- Literally the last chapter
Just to name two off of my head. You can like Sanji however you want and wank his powers and I don't really care all that much, but canonically Zoro has been called closest to Vice Captain, #2 of crew just like Rayleigh, and whatnot by Oda in official sources for a reason.
You've called Zoro VC-alike and RHM before anyway. So dunno why you're opposed to the idea of Zoro being de-facto in-charge in most circumstances if he's present while Luffy isn't. That's how it usually goes too, anyway.