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Oh I never been into a relationship. My so-called friends fucked it up for me Or maybe I really wasn't worth of her.

And she ain't the only problem I got. It's like everything on me at once. Parents keeps on fighting , they don't get a divorce cuz what the world would say but don't stay in peace either. I'm quite used to this Abuse but it's pretty disturbing for kid witnessing that since childhood.

My way of thinking got quite toxic. I end up offending people more oftenly now. I do agree I say things which people are right to be offended about. And my views being so toxic. I avoid people myself now. Really don't wanna bother people. For therapist I don't think so it would help. Cuz I know the issue and I refuse to change just shows my stubbornness. Which would also explain why I was abandoned by everyone. Therapy really won't help me. What I want is a thing from past. Which is impossible.
Thats understandable, nobody knows yourself better than you do too ofc. Childhood trauma fucks you up for life and causes such permanent issues to our mind, development and such so I can feel you. My parents divorced when I was very young and it fucked me up a lot.

That's unfortunate anyway but that's fair too ofc, if that's how you feel then just do what you gotta do, hopefully you'll make things work out for yourself in your own ways and if you have to be alone at least temporarily, then so be it too.

I'm realising I probably have to be alone too, to isolate myself and that I can't really mix with people and groups either, its just better this way, at least until I've truly dealt with my own issues after being alone and able to focus on them and myself.

But even then, I've known people who went through extremely abusive and horrible childhoods and also experienced so much abuse in childhoods myself and all of them ended up being loners too. I never used to understand it when I knew them, but I'm growing to understand why they do it, why they're like that too.

There are people out there who get called "damaged goods" and basically will never be "stable" or desirable or whatever, I've felt I'm damaged goods for many years now and my constant increasing difficulties with people and groups IRL just endeavours to prove that too.

Sorry to hear you've been abandoned so much and that your parents keep fighting and you are stuck with that, it must really be difficult and painful. Hopefully you are able to find some inner and also outer peace somehow, a better environment, state of mind and future.
 
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Aye I agree, but unfortunately that doesn't stop or change the rampant hate/abuse I've received from many people in the past in that regard. It's pretty disgusting to label people as that but over time, I'm begrudgingly being made to accept that it might be true too.

My therapist says I'm just surrounded by too many toxic people and too much toxicity which I agree with, but its near impossible at least for me to get away from them so I'm not sure what to do. I'm at my wit's end but I have to find a way somehow.
 
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Thats understandable, nobody knows yourself better than you do too ofc. Childhood trauma fucks you up for life and causes such permanent issues to our mind, development and such so I can feel you. My parents divorced when I was very young and it fucked me up a lot.

That's unfortunate anyway but that's fair too ofc, if that's how you feel then just do what you gotta do, hopefully you'll make things work out for yourself in your own ways and if you have to be alone at least temporarily, then so be it too.

I'm realising I probably have to be alone too, to isolate myself and that I can't really mix with people and groups either, its just better this way, at least until I've truly dealt with my own issues after being alone and able to focus on them and myself.

But even then, I've known people who went through extremely abusive and horrible childhoods and also experienced so much abuse in childhoods myself and all of them ended up being loners too. I never used to understand it when I knew them, but I'm growing to understand why they do it, why they're like that too.

There are people out there who get called "damaged goods" and basically will never be "stable" or desirable or whatever, I've felt I'm damaged goods for many years now and my constant increasing difficulties with people and groups IRL just endeavours to prove that too.

Sorry to hear you've been abandoned so much and that your parents keep fighting and you are stuck with that, it must really be difficult and painful. Hopefully you are able to find some inner and also outer peace somehow, a better environment, state of mind and future.
See this is why I isolate myself. Positive people. I know their motive is good and I can't do shit even after them putting in efforts. I have already sort of declared my myself beyond help. Try to have as productive day as possible. Which is most probably either study or go read some manga.
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See this is why I isolate myself. Positive people. I know their motive is good and I can't do shit even after them putting in efforts. I have already sort of declared my myself beyond help. Try to have as productive day as possible. Which is most probably either study or go read some manga.
Thats fair man, I can relate to that a lot. Theres only so much you can do, some things are beyond our own control after all ofc. Sometimes you just have to cut your losses, accepts things the way they are and just adapt as best you can, make the most of what you've got left.

This speech from Jinbei really spoke to me on a personal level and its one of the reasons I grew to love his character so much too. Its so applicable to real life ofc:

 
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Don't let other people's opinion influence how you see yourself.
Easier said than done unfortunately. I really lost myself at one point and being open to being affected by whatever people said and thought about me. I'm working to try to deal with it and overcome it but i'm trying to undo well over a decade of this and the damage it has done too.

I know in due time, I'll stop giving so much of a fuck of what others say, think and feel about me and I can't wait for that day, I really can't. I miss my days of having self confidence/esteem and thus some actual faith in myself and such.

With certain people actively hell bent on making me suffer and my life a misery IRL, its forcing my hand to retaliate and defend myself too, hence why I'm so quick to snap at times too, its tiring to constantly be made the bad guy, be the designated scapegoat and such IRL especially by my own family too.

Sooner or later, I know I will get the last laugh and I won't let them win, I just don't know yet still but I'll find a way somehow, I hope.
 
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