Is proposing in public sweet or cringe?
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I hate it personally. Its far too egotistical/showing off/pretentious. Ruins the intimacy of it too as more of a grandstanding, peacocking type thing.
Not everyone should be forced to witness you propose to your lover, especially when its so cringe and sycophantic.
Yes I'm bitter and cynical lol. Jilted and tilted.
Its not like Ive wanted to get married my whole life and I watched the girls I loved get married and be happy without me.
Seriously though, I feel it puts pressure on the proposee to say yes when its in public. It feels manipulative. Like peer pressuring but worse.
I knew an autistic girl who had severe anxiety issues like me and this guy could not keep his hands off her in public, despite both of them working for the same autism charity group that I was part of too. He was hugging her and being all romantic with her in front of us when it was strictly against our rules, but you know since she was the group leader's favourite, anything could go with her and she could never do any wrong at all, no matter how many people she hurt, angered, upset and drove away from the group permanently.
But yeah back to the point, that guy proposed to her in public in front of her family in a restaurant or at the bigger youth club (we ran a bigger youth club on saturdays for younger autistic/disable and just generally any young folks too) and she almost broke down crying, not from happiness but the pressure, the stress, being overwhelmed as shes autistic and has anxiety issues. Shes too terrified of upsetting others, letting them down so she said yes to him to "save grace/face" especially as shes from a VERY religious family too but I feel bad for her as that guy really put her on the spot and effectively forced/pressured her to say yes.
He should have proposed when they were alone and had privacy, given her a bit of a hint or buildup, not just drop it on her like an anvil or piano (cartoon style lol.)
More random useless trivia/tangents too, after he proposed to her and she accepted, she started flirting even more with me and my friend despite being engaged to that guy and that guy has gained so much weight, he could start auditioning for my 600 pound life too lol.
But yeah I really dont like public proposals, keep it private, intimate and maybe not even traditional proposals unless its some really creative, major proposal like involving tons of sticky notes, hearts, flowers or w/e.
But id rather ask the girl directly and casually, talking about it if we wanna get married, if we would be compatible enough and all necessary discussion about it. I really cant stand these overly grand, overcompensating, tryhard romantic gestures either. Feels far too self indulgent or as I said, peacocking too.
But thats just my bitter, old ass talking too ofc.
Not everyone should be forced to witness you propose to your lover, especially when its so cringe and sycophantic.
Yes I'm bitter and cynical lol. Jilted and tilted.
Its not like Ive wanted to get married my whole life and I watched the girls I loved get married and be happy without me.
Seriously though, I feel it puts pressure on the proposee to say yes when its in public. It feels manipulative. Like peer pressuring but worse.
I knew an autistic girl who had severe anxiety issues like me and this guy could not keep his hands off her in public, despite both of them working for the same autism charity group that I was part of too. He was hugging her and being all romantic with her in front of us when it was strictly against our rules, but you know since she was the group leader's favourite, anything could go with her and she could never do any wrong at all, no matter how many people she hurt, angered, upset and drove away from the group permanently.
But yeah back to the point, that guy proposed to her in public in front of her family in a restaurant or at the bigger youth club (we ran a bigger youth club on saturdays for younger autistic/disable and just generally any young folks too) and she almost broke down crying, not from happiness but the pressure, the stress, being overwhelmed as shes autistic and has anxiety issues. Shes too terrified of upsetting others, letting them down so she said yes to him to "save grace/face" especially as shes from a VERY religious family too but I feel bad for her as that guy really put her on the spot and effectively forced/pressured her to say yes.
He should have proposed when they were alone and had privacy, given her a bit of a hint or buildup, not just drop it on her like an anvil or piano (cartoon style lol.)
More random useless trivia/tangents too, after he proposed to her and she accepted, she started flirting even more with me and my friend despite being engaged to that guy and that guy has gained so much weight, he could start auditioning for my 600 pound life too lol.
But yeah I really dont like public proposals, keep it private, intimate and maybe not even traditional proposals unless its some really creative, major proposal like involving tons of sticky notes, hearts, flowers or w/e.
But id rather ask the girl directly and casually, talking about it if we wanna get married, if we would be compatible enough and all necessary discussion about it. I really cant stand these overly grand, overcompensating, tryhard romantic gestures either. Feels far too self indulgent or as I said, peacocking too.
But thats just my bitter, old ass talking too ofc.
