Endeavor has told Dabi multiple times to the point he believes nothing can be done to shake him out of his obsession. It's not a love issue, it's a pride issue on Dabi's part.
Endeavor giving up on his own motivation means he would have been killed in his extreme diff fights. Endeavor DID tell him to give up, multiple times, but Dabi had the same personality trait without the talent. If All Might didn't have the freakish trait he was given Endeavor WOULD have already been Japan's strongest already.
Touya didn't buy Endeavour's "there are other things than just being a hero", because Endeavour himself didn't buy that. It was in fact the reason he gave to Touya and the others. Touya simply caught onto that fact, and was calling Endeavour out on his bullshit.
If there was more to life than the world of heroes, then why was that the only thing his father cared about?
Touya felt obligated to enter that world because he believed that was the only way to get his father's approval again. Due to his hero work, and spending all his time with Shoto, he never had the time or care to give any of his other children his approval. That's why he felt he was being tossed aside.
By that stretch, Endeavour should also have given up being number 1 or devoting himself to surpassing All Might, because although it didn't hurt him physically, his singular desire to surpass all might destroyed nearly every single relationship that Endeavour had in his life.
Attempted murder of your baby brother is an almost unforgivable sin and we still hear that he is "looking at him evily" so no real repentance there.
His 8 years old. Bruh, how smart do you think children are? Children do not have functioning senses of morality in the same way adults do. Hell, even teenagers lash out. Like, yes, this is fiction, but have people forgotten what it was like to be a child?
Training beating in a battle manga isn't proper abuse imo. Was he beating Rei on the regular before this incident? I don't think so. That's how it was originally portrayed when we weren't meant to sympathize with Endeavor, but it doesn't line up with this flashback at all.
Bruh, SHOTO WAS 5 YEARS OLD! And not just that, but Shoto didn't want to do the training. He wanted to play with his siblings. Endeavour was actively forcing him to train his quirk. Yes, that's very clearly him being abusive.
He was beating up Rei because Rei was trying to protect Shoto during Endeavour's training.
There is no "controlling" his powers, his physique is not designed for his powers to be used, he would need specific tech to circumvent that.
The irony is, Endeavour taught him how to use his powers that way to begin with, and it was Endeavour's own lessons, and own lack of responsibility to actually go and see his son that resulted in Toya burning to death.
Like, that scene is very clearly played as Endeavour's fault. It was stated that it was Endeavour's day off, the only reason he didn't go to see Toya, was because he didn't believe he could talk to him.
