Alright, here's my very polite grievance to Flower.
I don't like the way you treat people dealing with death and tragic events. It's a recurring pattern.
Your feelings go above all else and you lash out despite people processing their own tragedies, their own woes.
You've basically said "your loved one is dying or is dead? You went through PTSD? You are dealing with a heavy loss? Well I have PTSD and I know about death too. Fuck you, I'm more important, here's how I should abuse you the way you abused me and why it's okay to do so." (Despite no abuse occurring at all, it's just a very warped perception you have.)
I think it's flat-out inappropriate and there's limits to kicking and screaming that doesn't involve devaluing people's personal struggles, especially when it comes to grief and death.
And what concerns me is you seemingly wouldn't give two flying fucks to if someone returned from a funeral or whatever else. You'd still keep doing what you were doing and try to find ways to validate it, again and again. Sure, you catch yourself for maybe a second or two at most and exclaim things like "well you're going through personal shit so I won't go there" and the thing is you do. You decide to go there. You decide to hurl abuse at people going through their own traumas and despite having that knowledge you just really don't give a single fuck.
And I don't understand how something as awful and hideous as death doesn't stop you from losing it and trying to remain composed for the benefit of the other human being, not even trying avoid your own woes to console them. I get it. You don't see the need to give your perceived threat any empathy whatsoever and it's infuriating to watch. Human beings don't have to be your friend to have you respect they're struggling deeply and darkly. I just don't get it. I really don't.
I understand Mafia is frustrating, I understand you feel victimized, I understand why you lash out and you have a hard time remaining composed but sometimes concerning topics like these your conduct and approach is upsetting to see.