WG Support Thread

there's no such thing as real purpose

real purpose is what we decide for ourselves

my purpose right now is in practicing meditation and enjoying the little things

unburdening my mind from all these fleeting and meaningless things put on our shoulders by society
Sounds like a good choice👍
i've recently found out i'm most likely ASD, and PDA to be more precise

which means i was given a shitty hand
Consider not placing too much value in diagnostic terminology, those names are changing constantly and so is professionals' approach to therapy.

From wiki:
Pathological demand avoidance has been criticized as a name for various reasons, including the negative connotations some confronted with the word pathological might have.[35] For example, social psychologists Damian Milton and Devon Price have suggested the behavior should not be considered pathological. They view PDA as an example of individual autonomy or self-advocacy.[36] Alternative names like Rational Demand Avoidance (RDA)[37] or Pervasive Drive for Autonomy[38][39] have been proposed and used.
Autism is not even considered a disorder by a growing number of professionals.
It's just a different way of being.
 
I think a friend of mine killed herself today. I’m not exactly sure how she died and it’d be inappropriate to ask, but the org we’re in didn’t mention a cause of death and mentioned the suicide hotline when they announced she died, so I’m guessing that’s what it was. She always did seem to have mental health issues.

She was such a nice and beautiful person, I don’t know why she did it. Everyone loved her and she had so much to live for.

Y’all idk what’s going on in your lives, but please don’t kill yourselves.
 
I think a friend of mine killed herself today. I’m not exactly sure how she died and it’d be inappropriate to ask, but the org we’re in didn’t mention a cause of death and mentioned the suicide hotline when they announced she died, so I’m guessing that’s what it was. She always did seem to have mental health issues.

She was such a nice and beautiful person, I don’t know why she did it. Everyone loved her and she had so much to live for.

Y’all idk what’s going on in your lives, but please don’t kill yourselves.
I'm so sorry for your loss, that has to be painful. It's always hard to lose someone you care about.
 

SmokedOut

Life Is Good ✌️
I think a friend of mine killed herself today. I’m not exactly sure how she died and it’d be inappropriate to ask, but the org we’re in didn’t mention a cause of death and mentioned the suicide hotline when they announced she died, so I’m guessing that’s what it was. She always did seem to have mental health issues.

She was such a nice and beautiful person, I don’t know why she did it. Everyone loved her and she had so much to live for.

Y’all idk what’s going on in your lives, but please don’t kill yourselves.
Condolences MDT
 
This probably. Suicidal people tend to fake out on many things.

Either way , I'm so sorry for your loss.
thanks

tbh I wasn’t that close to her. We only recently met due to this organization I joined. Still I saw her at an event only a few days before she died, so it was still something of a shock to hear the news. I didn’t expect someone I know to pass all of a sudden like that.

I feel really bad for her family and her roommates. I really hope, that if she did end things, that she didn’t do it in their apartment. That her roommates, who also are officers in our organization, didn’t need to be the ones to find the body.
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I suppose she probably was very unhappy with her life. Must be mental illness or something. Because she had tons of friends and everyone loved her.

It’s odd because I remember when we first met I had a long conversation with her and she told me about a friend of hers that taught her about how she had self worth. I wonder if she believed what she was telling me.

The last time I saw her, this past Sunday, she told me about how one of her close friends killed himself a few months back. She even made a tattoo on her leg with a message he wrote to her.

If she really did kill herself, I wonder if it’s somehow connected. If suicides work that way, like an illness that spreads from one person to the next. Like in that movie, Smile. It’s pretty scary.
 
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My story is that i have low-level autism in real life,and it caused me problems throughout my childhood and growing up.
Because of these problems, i was unable to make the most of these phases of my life. I wasn't able to be one of the best students in school and also wasn't able to build a social life. 😞 😢 💔 The fact that i never did any of the things people do with social connections during their school lives made me very sad when i finished school.
There are many details about this story,but i won't write everything here for this reason: I'm from Brazil and i still don't fully master English as my second language. When i'm typing things to post here,i always have to spend some time using Google Translator to polish my posts so everyone here can understand them. I can't tell the full story of my childhood and growing up here without it ending up being a wall of text that,furthermore, isn't in perfect English. I will break down my current situation as much as possible.
I was able to solve most of these problems with the help of my family and an association that supports autistic people here in my city. My current goal is to make up for my bad school life at the stage of life where people take technical courses,and study at college and university. I had the idea of graduating from three different universities. This way, i can make this new phase of studies satisfactorily long for me and be able to compensate enough for my school life.
I know that there are users here who are in this stage of life right now. Can anyone here tell me if my idea is good?
But other than that,my life is peaceful. My hometown is a peaceful place, doctors have always said that i am in very good health,and since i was little people around me have told me that i am a very cute young boy,and that i have talents for many things. I think the idea i mentioned above can be useful for me to realize the potential of my talents.
Also,i recently realized how close-knit my hometown is. I met up again with one of my teachers from my first school,some of my high school teachers,and a young man who was a classmate of mine,all in casual situations. I want to take advantage of this to meet more people from that stage of my life again,and build relationships with them that we weren't able to in the past.
It seems like a lot of people here have much harder lives than i do. Feel free to share your woes with me. I may not be in as bad situation as you,but i have knowledge about the problems of daily life in my own way. Maybe i can give you advice that will make a difference in your life.
@Adam 🍎 @Cross_Marian @WalnutTax
@BornInAbyss @mly90 @SmokedOut
@Toby D. Dog
 
My story is that i have low-level autism in real life,and it caused me problems throughout my childhood and growing up.
Because of these problems, i was unable to make the most of these phases of my life. I wasn't able to be one of the best students in school and also wasn't able to build a social life. 😞 😢 💔 The fact that i never did any of the things people do with social connections during their school lives made me very sad when i finished school.
There are many details about this story,but i won't write everything here for this reason: I'm from Brazil and i still don't fully master English as my second language. When i'm typing things to post here,i always have to spend some time using Google Translator to polish my posts so everyone here can understand them. I can't tell the full story of my childhood and growing up here without it ending up being a wall of text that,furthermore, isn't in perfect English. I will break down my current situation as much as possible.
I was able to solve most of these problems with the help of my family and an association that supports autistic people here in my city. My current goal is to make up for my bad school life at the stage of life where people take technical courses,and study at college and university. I had the idea of graduating from three different universities. This way, i can make this new phase of studies satisfactorily long for me and be able to compensate enough for my school life.
I know that there are users here who are in this stage of life right now. Can anyone here tell me if my idea is good?
But other than that,my life is peaceful. My hometown is a peaceful place, doctors have always said that i am in very good health,and since i was little people around me have told me that i am a very cute young boy,and that i have talents for many things. I think the idea i mentioned above can be useful for me to realize the potential of my talents.
Also,i recently realized how close-knit my hometown is. I met up again with one of my teachers from my first school,some of my high school teachers,and a young man who was a classmate of mine,all in casual situations. I want to take advantage of this to meet more people from that stage of my life again,and build relationships with them that we weren't able to in the past.
It seems like a lot of people here have much harder lives than i do. Feel free to share your woes with me. I may not be in as bad situation as you,but i have knowledge about the problems of daily life in my own way. Maybe i can give you advice that will make a difference in your life.
@Adam 🍎 @Cross_Marian @WalnutTax
@BornInAbyss @mly90 @SmokedOut
@Toby D. Dog
Brother, you got my support on Everything. Don‘t give up! I am an asperger autist myself and I know how hard life can get as an autist. I think it‘s great that you have plans for your future. Follow your dreams and make them reality. If you truly want that, you can do it I believe in you! 🤗
 

SmokedOut

Life Is Good ✌️
My story is that i have low-level autism in real life,and it caused me problems throughout my childhood and growing up.
Because of these problems, i was unable to make the most of these phases of my life. I wasn't able to be one of the best students in school and also wasn't able to build a social life. 😞 😢 💔 The fact that i never did any of the things people do with social connections during their school lives made me very sad when i finished school.
There are many details about this story,but i won't write everything here for this reason: I'm from Brazil and i still don't fully master English as my second language. When i'm typing things to post here,i always have to spend some time using Google Translator to polish my posts so everyone here can understand them. I can't tell the full story of my childhood and growing up here without it ending up being a wall of text that,furthermore, isn't in perfect English. I will break down my current situation as much as possible.
I was able to solve most of these problems with the help of my family and an association that supports autistic people here in my city. My current goal is to make up for my bad school life at the stage of life where people take technical courses,and study at college and university. I had the idea of graduating from three different universities. This way, i can make this new phase of studies satisfactorily long for me and be able to compensate enough for my school life.
I know that there are users here who are in this stage of life right now. Can anyone here tell me if my idea is good?
But other than that,my life is peaceful. My hometown is a peaceful place, doctors have always said that i am in very good health,and since i was little people around me have told me that i am a very cute young boy,and that i have talents for many things. I think the idea i mentioned above can be useful for me to realize the potential of my talents.
Also,i recently realized how close-knit my hometown is. I met up again with one of my teachers from my first school,some of my high school teachers,and a young man who was a classmate of mine,all in casual situations. I want to take advantage of this to meet more people from that stage of my life again,and build relationships with them that we weren't able to in the past.
It seems like a lot of people here have much harder lives than i do. Feel free to share your woes with me. I may not be in as bad situation as you,but i have knowledge about the problems of daily life in my own way. Maybe i can give you advice that will make a difference in your life.
@Adam 🍎 @Cross_Marian @WalnutTax
@BornInAbyss @mly90 @SmokedOut
@Toby D. Dog
My little brother also has low-level autism, so I totally get what you're going through. Despite the challenges, he found a love for coding when he was young. With encouragement from family and teachers, he really dove into it, joining competitions and taking online classes. His determination and unique way of seeing things helped him get accepted to a university. Now, he’s working at a tech startup and uses his journey to inspire others who face similar challenges.
 
My little brother also has low-level autism, so I totally get what you're going through. Despite the challenges, he found a love for coding when he was young. With encouragement from family and teachers, he really dove into it, joining competitions and taking online classes. His determination and unique way of seeing things helped him get accepted to a university. Now, he’s working at a tech startup and uses his journey to inspire others who face similar challenges.
Does your little brother have a good social life,or does he have difficulty with it?
One challenge that autistic people may face is having difficulty with social life.
The fact that i wasn't able to build a social life during school wasn't anyone's fault,not even mine. I wasn't bullied or anything similar. The reasons for this were three things caused by my condition: Self awareness issues,fear and repression of feelings.
Explaining all three:
-My self awareness issues: Self awareness is our ability to understand and be aware of our own thoughts,emotions and behaviors etc,how they affect ourselves and others,and to understand everything about the world around us,and interact with everything in the world around us. I didn't have this ability during my childhood and adolescence.
-My fear: When i entered adolescence,i became aware of the problems that people can face at this stage of life,such as involvement with drugs and crime and teenage pregnancy. So i developed a great fear of these things.
-The repression of my feelings: My parents gave me professional help,but during my adolescence,i repressed the bad feelings i had at that time,i became a sullen person,and i was uncooperative with some therapists who tried to help me.
Because of my self awareness issues,i was unable to do things like make my own decisions,do many everyday tasks competently,and react appropriately to things i liked and disliked. This made me unable to follow many classes properly at school.
This,mixed with my fear of being a teenager and the world around me,was what made me push away many students who tried to befriend me at the various schools i attended. I really regret that now.
The bad feelings i had were about how i never reacted appropriately to things i didn't like in my everyday life,and how i wasn't competent enough to do things that made me happy.
I repressed my bad feelings for some time,until i reached my breaking point and snapped,in a sad episode here at home at the end of last decade. It was a sad episode,but it served as a wake up call for me to start taking action on my problems.
I have overcome these three problems. Currently, i am a person who has a great ability to think for myself and talk about my feelings,i can do everyday tasks competently and have an easy time learning to do new things,i am very attentive to everything in the world around me,and i have a good ability to keep myself informed what is happening around the world.
I spent some time feeling sad because i didn't enjoyed my school life. But the therapists i'm seeing now,and one of my aunts,who is a very supportive person in my life,encourage me to let things that happened in the past influence me in a good way.
Recently,i've been having recurring dreams about my days back in school. I didn't even need professional help to interpret these dreams. I know they mean that i want to start the phase of life where people take technical courses,and study at college and university. Now i have the ability to make these times better for myself.
Both people in my family and the schools i attended always commented on how i never seemed to have any interest in a love life. There were girls in school who commented on what a cute boy i was,and tried to get close to me. They were among the people i pushed away because of my self awareness issues and fear. But now,having recovered from my past problems and having thought a lot about the past,i know that i am not an asexual person and i want to have a love life. But i have no interest in getting married and having children,because for me,my freedom comes before any responsibility,and i know that many of the world's problems are caused by humanity reproducing endlessly. I'm looking for a non-traditional type of relationship that allows me to have a love life the way i want.
@Adam 🍎 @Cross_Marian @WalnutTax
@BornInAbyss @mly90 @SmokedOut
@Reborn @Peroroncino @Kizaruber Eats
@ConquistadoR @LANJI CUCKSMOKE
 
My story is that i have low-level autism in real life,and it caused me problems throughout my childhood and growing up.
Because of these problems, i was unable to make the most of these phases of my life. I wasn't able to be one of the best students in school and also wasn't able to build a social life. 😞 😢 💔 The fact that i never did any of the things people do with social connections during their school lives made me very sad when i finished school.
There are many details about this story,but i won't write everything here for this reason: I'm from Brazil and i still don't fully master English as my second language. When i'm typing things to post here,i always have to spend some time using Google Translator to polish my posts so everyone here can understand them. I can't tell the full story of my childhood and growing up here without it ending up being a wall of text that,furthermore, isn't in perfect English. I will break down my current situation as much as possible.
I was able to solve most of these problems with the help of my family and an association that supports autistic people here in my city. My current goal is to make up for my bad school life at the stage of life where people take technical courses,and study at college and university. I had the idea of graduating from three different universities. This way, i can make this new phase of studies satisfactorily long for me and be able to compensate enough for my school life.
I know that there are users here who are in this stage of life right now. Can anyone here tell me if my idea is good?
But other than that,my life is peaceful. My hometown is a peaceful place, doctors have always said that i am in very good health,and since i was little people around me have told me that i am a very cute young boy,and that i have talents for many things. I think the idea i mentioned above can be useful for me to realize the potential of my talents.
Also,i recently realized how close-knit my hometown is. I met up again with one of my teachers from my first school,some of my high school teachers,and a young man who was a classmate of mine,all in casual situations. I want to take advantage of this to meet more people from that stage of my life again,and build relationships with them that we weren't able to in the past.
It seems like a lot of people here have much harder lives than i do. Feel free to share your woes with me. I may not be in as bad situation as you,but i have knowledge about the problems of daily life in my own way. Maybe i can give you advice that will make a difference in your life.
@Adam 🍎 @Cross_Marian @WalnutTax
@BornInAbyss @mly90 @SmokedOut
@Toby D. Dog
I have low-level autism too, don't let it get you down though. Despite what some people may say you're just as human as the rest of us and you can still do amazing things.
 

Kizaruber Eats

THE KIZARUBER EATS, THE KIZARUBER EATS IS REAL!
My story is that i have low-level autism in real life,and it caused me problems throughout my childhood and growing up.
Because of these problems, i was unable to make the most of these phases of my life. I wasn't able to be one of the best students in school and also wasn't able to build a social life. 😞 😢 💔 The fact that i never did any of the things people do with social connections during their school lives made me very sad when i finished school.
There are many details about this story,but i won't write everything here for this reason: I'm from Brazil and i still don't fully master English as my second language. When i'm typing things to post here,i always have to spend some time using Google Translator to polish my posts so everyone here can understand them. I can't tell the full story of my childhood and growing up here without it ending up being a wall of text that,furthermore, isn't in perfect English. I will break down my current situation as much as possible.
I was able to solve most of these problems with the help of my family and an association that supports autistic people here in my city. My current goal is to make up for my bad school life at the stage of life where people take technical courses,and study at college and university. I had the idea of graduating from three different universities. This way, i can make this new phase of studies satisfactorily long for me and be able to compensate enough for my school life.
I know that there are users here who are in this stage of life right now. Can anyone here tell me if my idea is good?
But other than that,my life is peaceful. My hometown is a peaceful place, doctors have always said that i am in very good health,and since i was little people around me have told me that i am a very cute young boy,and that i have talents for many things. I think the idea i mentioned above can be useful for me to realize the potential of my talents.
Also,i recently realized how close-knit my hometown is. I met up again with one of my teachers from my first school,some of my high school teachers,and a young man who was a classmate of mine,all in casual situations. I want to take advantage of this to meet more people from that stage of my life again,and build relationships with them that we weren't able to in the past.
It seems like a lot of people here have much harder lives than i do. Feel free to share your woes with me. I may not be in as bad situation as you,but i have knowledge about the problems of daily life in my own way. Maybe i can give you advice that will make a difference in your life.
@Adam 🍎 @Cross_Marian @WalnutTax
@BornInAbyss @mly90 @SmokedOut
@Toby D. Dog
Hey man,

It's really cool to hear how you're taking control of your life and trying to make up for some of the challenges you faced growing up. Catching up with old friends and teachers is a fantastic idea! It takes guts to reach out like that, and it shows how much you've grown. Those connections can be super important, and it sounds like you're building a good support system for yourself. Keep nurturing those relationships!

But about those three degrees… jeez! That's seriously ambitious, even for someone without autism! And honestly, as someone who's also on the spectrum, I know firsthand how overwhelming university can be. Think about it: the workload, the social pressures, the constant sensory overload… it can be a real struggle to keep your head above water sometimes.
Don't get me wrong, it's awesome to have goals and to dream big. But maybe you need to chill a bit on this one? Why not pick one area that you're really passionate about and focus all your energy on that? You can always go back and do more degrees later if you want. There's no rush!

The most important thing is to look after yourself, yeah? Don't burn yourself out trying to achieve everything at once. Pace yourself, find healthy ways to cope with stress, and celebrate all the good stuff, even the small wins! Remember, success isn't just about how many degrees you have; it's about finding what makes you happy and fulfilled. And it sounds like you're already on the right track.
You got this! Just remember to be kind to yourself along the way.

(Also on a side note, a lot of us here are probably way more autistic than we realise, given the obsession with powerscaling, agendas and fixating on details like expressions/eyebrows/sweat/huffing and puffing etc. Seriously though, there's probably a lot of unspoken autistic people here, anime and Japan are overwhelming appealing to autistic people and such, along with One Piece especially too and also stuff like video games and sometimes even animated/family friendly type films like Disney, Dreamworks, Pixar etc.

I've known a lot of people on the spectrum, I've worked with many in a former job and almost in a 2nd job too, I've got friends atm who are o the spectrum like us [See Mike/MZTS above as he claimed too ofc)] and I've suspected many others of being on the spectrum too, I am certain they are. Not people here only but also others I know elsewhere. I've already been proven right about some of them too.)
 

SmokedOut

Life Is Good ✌️
Does your little brother have a good social life,or does he have difficulty with it?
One challenge that autistic people may face is having difficulty with social life.
The fact that i wasn't able to build a social life during school wasn't anyone's fault,not even mine. I wasn't bullied or anything similar. The reasons for this were three things caused by my condition: Self awareness issues,fear and repression of feelings.
Explaining all three:
-My self awareness issues: Self awareness is our ability to understand and be aware of our own thoughts,emotions and behaviors etc,how they affect ourselves and others,and to understand everything about the world around us,and interact with everything in the world around us. I didn't have this ability during my childhood and adolescence.
-My fear: When i entered adolescence,i became aware of the problems that people can face at this stage of life,such as involvement with drugs and crime and teenage pregnancy. So i developed a great fear of these things.
-The repression of my feelings: My parents gave me professional help,but during my adolescence,i repressed the bad feelings i had at that time,i became a sullen person,and i was uncooperative with some therapists who tried to help me.
Because of my self awareness issues,i was unable to do things like make my own decisions,do many everyday tasks competently,and react appropriately to things i liked and disliked. This made me unable to follow many classes properly at school.
This,mixed with my fear of being a teenager and the world around me,was what made me push away many students who tried to befriend me at the various schools i attended. I really regret that now.
The bad feelings i had were about how i never reacted appropriately to things i didn't like in my everyday life,and how i wasn't competent enough to do things that made me happy.
I repressed my bad feelings for some time,until i reached my breaking point and snapped,in a sad episode here at home at the end of last decade. It was a sad episode,but it served as a wake up call for me to start taking action on my problems.
I have overcome these three problems. Currently, i am a person who has a great ability to think for myself and talk about my feelings,i can do everyday tasks competently and have an easy time learning to do new things,i am very attentive to everything in the world around me,and i have a good ability to keep myself informed what is happening around the world.
I spent some time feeling sad because i didn't enjoyed my school life. But the therapists i'm seeing now,and one of my aunts,who is a very supportive person in my life,encourage me to let things that happened in the past influence me in a good way.
Recently,i've been having recurring dreams about my days back in school. I didn't even need professional help to interpret these dreams. I know they mean that i want to start the phase of life where people take technical courses,and study at college and university. Now i have the ability to make these times better for myself.
Both people in my family and the schools i attended always commented on how i never seemed to have any interest in a love life. There were girls in school who commented on what a cute boy i was,and tried to get close to me. They were among the people i pushed away because of my self awareness issues and fear. But now,having recovered from my past problems and having thought a lot about the past,i know that i am not an asexual person and i want to have a love life. But i have no interest in getting married and having children,because for me,my freedom comes before any responsibility,and i know that many of the world's problems are caused by humanity reproducing endlessly. I'm looking for a non-traditional type of relationship that allows me to have a love life the way i want.
@Adam 🍎 @Cross_Marian @WalnutTax
@BornInAbyss @mly90 @SmokedOut
@Reborn @Peroroncino @Kizaruber Eats
@ConquistadoR @LANJI CUCKSMOKE
He's had 3 close friends most of his life and only feels comfortable in social settings if one of those 3 or a family member are with him. If he meets new people alone or finds himself in an unfamiliar setting, he always texts someone he knows and trusts to reassure him that everything will be ok.
 
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