y'all tend to use this term incorrectly.
Patriarchy is a domination system studied by researchers. It's not just a feminism buzzword but an actual subject of study. And this is those studies that feminists are using to militate.
The word patriarchy has its origins in ethnology/anthropology and refers to how societies are organized.
There are patriarchal societies and matriarchal societies for example.
''THE patriarchy'' that you guys like to talk about (either as a boogeyman for the left or to spite the left foe the right) does simply not exist.
Patriarchy is not "a boogyman" or a "buzz word". It's a real system of domination of men over women. Not just the simplistic organization of the society with men in power.
You should read some sociology. The reason why you don't understand this issue is because you still see the world in an idealistic sense and not a materialistic one. You refuse to see the structuration of society and still think that people are the problem.