I'm sorry you feel that way but that's the way I am, I see something wrong and I point it out. I can't change my self for you no matter how much you want me to.
I never insulted your wife, either. I feel a little bit of pity for her, due to how confident you were that you would fuck another woman (who is also in a seemingly serious relationship) instead of her if she gave you the green light, but I suppose that is ultimately her mistake. And since we're all imperfect, it wouldn't be right of me to judge her for making said mistake, I'd instantly be a hypocrite because we all make mistakes.
I'll be honest, I don't hate you or your wife, I think you just said something really stupid and get angry when people mention it.
It's fair, I can see why you would hate to be reminded of it, and I guess I was wrong to randomly bring it up and shame you for it so much.