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Maybe I’m not qualified enough but I can still speak from own experience.
I was depressive for 2 years and had some short thoughts about suicide (never tried it) and had lost my way.
It’s like a inner battle and expressing your true feelings can be impossible sometimes.
Everyone is an individual and needs a different "treatment".
I have not the one definitive answer.
There are many different ways, you need to know yourself first. Honesty to yourself is the first step (even if it’s hard).
Try therapy, talk with people who deserve you, go to the nature or something else. There a different ways as I said BUT don’t search for solutions which give you a momentary satisfaction like alcohol for example. Even if it’s painful without it for some people…
My faith in God and some family members helped me the most but this is not something for everyone so there are some beautiful quotes. They inspired me a lot
Never forget that you’re not weak, everyone has a unique beauty within the soul.
If you have nothing to live for, then keep walking and find a meaning.
Falling on your knees is not a bad thing as long as you can stand up again.
I pray that everyone will find their happiness
I was depressive for 2 years and had some short thoughts about suicide (never tried it) and had lost my way.
It’s like a inner battle and expressing your true feelings can be impossible sometimes.
Everyone is an individual and needs a different "treatment".
I have not the one definitive answer.
There are many different ways, you need to know yourself first. Honesty to yourself is the first step (even if it’s hard).
Try therapy, talk with people who deserve you, go to the nature or something else. There a different ways as I said BUT don’t search for solutions which give you a momentary satisfaction like alcohol for example. Even if it’s painful without it for some people…
My faith in God and some family members helped me the most but this is not something for everyone so there are some beautiful quotes. They inspired me a lot
Never forget that you’re not weak, everyone has a unique beauty within the soul.
If you have nothing to live for, then keep walking and find a meaning.
Falling on your knees is not a bad thing as long as you can stand up again.
I pray that everyone will find their happiness
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Aye, unfortunately we don't really know the impact of what we say and do unto others until its too late usually. Whether its causing them a mental breakdown to self harming or the worst case scenario as in Jmenas case ofc.
Shes doing much healthier now, much, much happier, living out her dreams and working in medical care as a nurse and such, so shes helping others now too. I havent spoken to her in years but I've looked her up and shes definitely doing MUCH better now, thats a clear sign as a lighthouse with a rave going on instead.
Seeing those scars though man, it was horrifying. For someone to be driven to that and at such a young age too, such a happy, cheerful, go lucky, genuinely kind, selfless, innocent, sweet etc person, it really made me feel broken inside for her. I may have done a lot of stupid, fucked up, hurtful things in the past to myself and others but moments like that, remind me that I'm not entirely a bad person and I can accomplish good things too.
One of my exes was COVERED head to toe in self harm scars, well from shoulders down to ankles or so. She had been so emotionally/verbally/mentally destroyed by her family and others, that she took to cutting herself all over gradually and it took some gradual effort on my part at least to get her to stop doing it eventually too.
Shes doing much healthier now, much, much happier, living out her dreams and working in medical care as a nurse and such, so shes helping others now too. I havent spoken to her in years but I've looked her up and shes definitely doing MUCH better now, thats a clear sign as a lighthouse with a rave going on instead.
Seeing those scars though man, it was horrifying. For someone to be driven to that and at such a young age too, such a happy, cheerful, go lucky, genuinely kind, selfless, innocent, sweet etc person, it really made me feel broken inside for her. I may have done a lot of stupid, fucked up, hurtful things in the past to myself and others but moments like that, remind me that I'm not entirely a bad person and I can accomplish good things too.
It's a good and admirable initiative, @SmokedOut. Sincerely wish the best to anyone who struggles with this type of issues and I hope you'll get better.
I have no experience when it comes to helping ppl suffering from this but I'm also willing to help in whatever way I can. If someone needs to talk, my door's open.
I have no experience when it comes to helping ppl suffering from this but I'm also willing to help in whatever way I can. If someone needs to talk, my door's open.
Recently I was talking to a friend whose been battling depression for over 15 years. She’s also been in therapy for over 15 years. One piece of advice her therapist shared was to start complimenting herself for things she did during the day no matter how small. It’s been very helpful for her. An accomplishment could be anything from “I made my bed today” to “I cleaned out my inbox.” Hopefully this advice can help anyone who feels lost right now.
To be honest, only professionals, self-help books from leading psychotherapists and communication with people who have experienced this can help. People who have not experienced this can cause real pain in their attempts to achieve a positive attitude. Some people don't realize that during severe depression, it's sometimes impossible to even brush your teeth. Sometimes you don't wash your hair for days, weeks... Because you lie and look at one point. And when in such a state you see advice "you need to move, read what you are interested in, walk", it can lead to unfortunate results. First you need to help yourself. Heal yourself. Rehab is the next step.
By the way, the advice "think about people around you" is also toxic. It makes people feel selfish, but they are not.
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By the way, the advice "think about people around you" is also toxic. It makes people feel selfish, but they are not.
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great idea. hope this really helps people in a positive ways. All I ask for is this thread to be monitored strictly with more priority as this involves relatively sensitive topic.
Few weeks ago, I myself was in a dark mental state (not in a suicidal way though) and I'm not gonna lie my way out was heavy music and internet. Seeing some of the ridiculous arguments made here and taking somewhat part in it really uplifted me sometimes. Also while surfing the internet, I found this panel from Berserk and it helped me further in picking myself up and keep going stronger than ever.
what i've realized is, not every problems in your life can be discussed with your family/ friends. So, letting them out to the people who are here to discuss the fictional characters on a fictional story isn't really a bad idea. There is nothing more worse than bottling up the feelings inside.
what i've realized is, not every problems in your life can be discussed with your family/ friends. So, letting them out to the people who are here to discuss the fictional characters on a fictional story isn't really a bad idea. There is nothing more worse than bottling up the feelings inside.
I am pinning this thread so it's easily accessible. Still, if you feel like your concern deserves a separate topic, feel free to make a separate thread.
Nah, it actually helps—although not always. Sometimes, you just need someone to push you to move. People in this state often don't need expert advice. All they need is an ear to listen to their issues(sometimes rant) and offer a word of support.
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Nah, it actually helps—although not always. Sometimes, you just need someone to push you to move. People in this state often don't need expert advice. All they need is an ear to listen to their issues(sometimes rant) and offer a word of support.
I know what depression (severe depression) is by myself. Most advice from incompetent people is harmful.
Support is good. But advice should only be given by people who have experienced this. Or people who have at least read articles about how to deal with a depressed person. Even in this thread, there are already a few comments that can negatively affect a depressed person.
A depressed person ALWAYS needs a specialist. And not the one who will push him to action. You can't take action while you're sick. You can't act because you're fucking sick.
Support is good. But advice should only be given by people who have experienced this. Or people who have at least read articles about how to deal with a depressed person. Even in this thread, there are already a few comments that can negatively affect a depressed person.
A depressed person ALWAYS needs a specialist. And not the one who will push him to action. You can't take action while you're sick. You can't act because you're fucking sick.
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Depression is stagnation of the mind and soul. You overcome it by advancing forward in all aspects
You said it yourself, depression can lead to lack of self care and such, hence why almost all therapists i worked with recommend starting from there.
If you look good you feel good, it is undisputed fact. Working out is good for your body and mind.
And suicide is selfish act. I felt absolute shame after my attempt and to this day no one from my close family knows it.
My family worked their ass off to provide for me. Been there every single time i needed them. Dont want them to know what i did, they dont deserve it
You said it yourself, depression can lead to lack of self care and such, hence why almost all therapists i worked with recommend starting from there.
If you look good you feel good, it is undisputed fact. Working out is good for your body and mind.
And suicide is selfish act. I felt absolute shame after my attempt and to this day no one from my close family knows it.
My family worked their ass off to provide for me. Been there every single time i needed them. Dont want them to know what i did, they dont deserve it
I agree but these suggestions are often from people who have no clue what's going on in the victim's mind. You gotta hear and learn what's going on in their mind before you go on to give them suggestions. It doesn't always work, but most of the time, at least, one or two of our peers went through similar issues. Their advice can be extremely valuable even if they aren't professional.