Well, that would be fair only if women don't go for looks but they do. In fact, they look for more than just financial stability and looks from a man. That's what I am pointing out, and it's not necessarily a bad thing to have high standards. Women should have high standards because they have the right to choose what's best for them, as do men. I think it's meaningless to call out one another for wanting the best life we could haveβeveryone wants it if they're given an opportunity. I do think, however, that we should be humbled by society when we confuse what we desire with what we deserve.
And it's not about who deserves to be called out more. I am just pointing out how male and female preferences are treated differently by society.
Without sounding too much caveman like, women because of biological and cultural reasons always want the best "mate". Historically it was because of safety and overall quality of life reasons.
In todays time that carried through the years hence why women don't "date" as much as men. If you put a woman in the room with 10 guys she would maybe pick 1-3 that she would consider a possible "mate"
Men on other side, you can put 10 women in front of us and we would most likely be able to hook up with 7+. Cause unlike women we don't necessarily search for the best mate.
I am well aware this sounds caveman af but it is just historical facts.
It's not about you and me but what happens in general on a broader scale. Not everyone's lucky enough to have friends who support than emotionally. Men are expected to deal with their issues on their own. So even getting new friends may not help. We are treated differently for literally the same thingsβthat is the truth without a shadow of a doubt. The standards issue that I pointed out above is one of many areas where this often happens.
If you don't have friends that can support you emotionally there is family, therapist, priest and so on... there are always options to let out your emotions. I don't buy the whole men must be stoic, hell no, men should show feelings but not let feelings rule over them.
Sure there are unfortunate souls that don't even have options i said, but even then a man must have a way to release emotions, whether it is gym, playing games, something that lets them release pent up stress.
And we as a society have the right and moral obligation to give them a helping hand and tell them to improve themselves, but that's where the boundary ends. We don't get to call their lives worthless for not meeting some random woman's standards of her ideal partner. Some people get rejected over things that they can't really change. Some people genuinely try to improve but still fail to meet their woman's standards.
Oh i totally get that, i was a fat fuck when i started gym and i had bunch of good people help me out and not ridicule me (gym bros ftw).
Getting rejected happens to all of us, you figure out what went wrong and fix it.
Ok so if 4 girls rejected me because they like more muscular men - maybe i should hit the gym
Ok so if 4 girl rejected me because they don't find me smart - maybe i should hit the library/school
and repeat for every problem you can identify.
Is it hard? You bet your ass it is.
But what is the alternative? Remain the same person you are? Getting rejected same way over and over? If you wann stay like that sure... but if that person starts blaming others for their problems - only then i'll say fuck that person, that is an incel