Are you happy?
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Honestly its not like i want to keep my gf as a backup & safe option. Its more complicated than that..
We live together for a few years, just recently renovated our apartment, we had plans & dreams for our future.
Its not that i dont love her, i got bored of her or any anything like. Its just that this girl came suddenly into my life out of nowhere and i've lost my fucking mind.
@Nidai_Kitetsu is right its not so simple.
I talked about it with a very good friend of mine (he's the only one that knows about it) and i've made my decision. It may sound childish and stupid right now but i will go and visit the other girl in a few days in her country. When i will return i know i have to finish things either with her or my gf and i'm willing to pay the price for it.
I really dont know how some people are able to live this double life for years w/o any problem. Its fucking sick..
We live together for a few years, just recently renovated our apartment, we had plans & dreams for our future.
Its not that i dont love her, i got bored of her or any anything like. Its just that this girl came suddenly into my life out of nowhere and i've lost my fucking mind.
@Nidai_Kitetsu is right its not so simple.
I talked about it with a very good friend of mine (he's the only one that knows about it) and i've made my decision. It may sound childish and stupid right now but i will go and visit the other girl in a few days in her country. When i will return i know i have to finish things either with her or my gf and i'm willing to pay the price for it.
I really dont know how some people are able to live this double life for years w/o any problem. Its fucking sick..
Nope. That is just the words of a weak man who cannot make a choice.
This is an unbelievably easy problem to solve as he IS the problem.
Choose one. Commit to it and accept whatever consequences may come. That is what it means to be a responsible man. I have never cheated, but I had 3 women who wanted to date me until I settled on my wife-to-be. I have never strayed.
The reason you cannot live with the feeling is because, despite your mistake, you're probably a good person (I don't know you, but a bad person can do it non-stop without remorse).
Just remember one thing, lad, sometimes pleasure fucks with a man's brain. If the other woman is more accessible, it could simply be that she's meeting your primal needs.
Here's a question I have for you, and it may be a bit personal, so we can take it to DMs if you desire, but does your current partner withhold sex a lot? Do you feel sexually frustrated in your current relationship? The reason I ask is because this is a primary reason that men cheat on their partners, especially when, as I said above, a more 'accessible' woman comes along.
I believe cheating only occurs when there is a problem in the current relationship that is not being addressed. Maybe it is necessary for you to identify it and THEN work on it. You know, it's very unsettling for women to be with a man who has already cheated, especially if they cheated to be with YOU (a female friend of me told me this -- she was in the same position as your new bird).
I may sound cruel, but it's just... life aint all about you, you know? You have to think about the person who has COMMITTED to you as well.
I don't envy your position. I say I have never strayed, but does this mean my heart or mind never waivered? No. I've had people who fluttered my heart and tempted me. But I have stayed true to the promise I made. I'm not saying this to make it seem like I'm a better person.... I'm saying it because I know that life can happen and wonderful people can sweep us off our feet, which you have experienced. The important thing now is to do right by your partner, yourself, and this new woman.
This is an unbelievably easy problem to solve as he IS the problem.
Choose one. Commit to it and accept whatever consequences may come. That is what it means to be a responsible man. I have never cheated, but I had 3 women who wanted to date me until I settled on my wife-to-be. I have never strayed.
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The reason you cannot live with the feeling is because, despite your mistake, you're probably a good person (I don't know you, but a bad person can do it non-stop without remorse).
Just remember one thing, lad, sometimes pleasure fucks with a man's brain. If the other woman is more accessible, it could simply be that she's meeting your primal needs.
Here's a question I have for you, and it may be a bit personal, so we can take it to DMs if you desire, but does your current partner withhold sex a lot? Do you feel sexually frustrated in your current relationship? The reason I ask is because this is a primary reason that men cheat on their partners, especially when, as I said above, a more 'accessible' woman comes along.
I believe cheating only occurs when there is a problem in the current relationship that is not being addressed. Maybe it is necessary for you to identify it and THEN work on it. You know, it's very unsettling for women to be with a man who has already cheated, especially if they cheated to be with YOU (a female friend of me told me this -- she was in the same position as your new bird).
I may sound cruel, but it's just... life aint all about you, you know? You have to think about the person who has COMMITTED to you as well.
I don't envy your position. I say I have never strayed, but does this mean my heart or mind never waivered? No. I've had people who fluttered my heart and tempted me. But I have stayed true to the promise I made. I'm not saying this to make it seem like I'm a better person.... I'm saying it because I know that life can happen and wonderful people can sweep us off our feet, which you have experienced. The important thing now is to do right by your partner, yourself, and this new woman.
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